Thursday, April 14, 2011

My Glass is Half Full

Today I received an email from someone who said I appear to be a "glass half full kind of person".  They are so right.  It reminded of a post I wrote for the lovely Sass over at Life of Bees and I thought I'd use it here today.  I've made a few changes to it so it reflects me right now. 

What makes me happy today?

My first thoughts are the usual suspects; my kids, my fianc矇, my dog, pretty flowers, chocolate and so on. 

As I sit here thinking about happiness and adding more things to my list, I realise those same things on my “happy list” can also make me sad, angry, frustrated and a myriad of other emotions.   As can so many other things in my life.  Twitter for example, makes me happy, but it can also make me sad, frustrated and sometimes angry.  You can apply the same to my kids, my fiance and even my dog!

The more I think about this I realise that “I” am solely responsible for my own happiness.   The people and things on my “happy” list can either enhance or take away my happiness, but alone they don’t define my happiness.    

I am basically a happy person.  I’m a glass half full kind of girl.  When things get me down I don’t stay there long.  Of course I like a good wallow and can do it like the best of them, but I find wallowing in the empty half of the glass so very draining.  For me, being unhappy, melancholy, angry or depressed takes a lot more energy than being upbeat. 

Life has thrown me plenty of curveballs, however it has also thrown me plenty of “amazeballs” (thanks Sarah P for this word) and will continue to do so.   I live by the premise that life is full of highs and lows and somewhere to rest in between.   

Life can’t be perfect and sparkly all the time, if it was we would take happiness for granted.  Remember the movie The Truman Show with Jim Carrey?  How boring was that perfect life – same thing day in and day out?  I love my life.  I love where it has taken me and where it is still taking me.  I am blessed to have so much and I am also blessed to have so little.  I have a balance.  I have enough good to make me realise how lucky I am and I have enough bad to keep me real.

Life is what makes me happy, and, the things below on my happy list add some additional “sparkly” to the life I love.

Photo by:  jamie84

My Happy List J

My two boys
My dog Sammy
My friends (IRL and Online)
My books
My laptop, iPad, Blackberry, the Internet, Twitter ... all things interwebz & techy
Smell of fresh cut grass
Smell of babies and puppies
The sound of children laughing
Warm sun on my skin on a cold day
The beach
Photo by:   aida_1982
What's on your happy list?



Jane said...

Annie, I love this post and I love that you're a glass-half-full kinda girl. I think positivity is contagious, and I'm constantly working on surrounding myself with happy people. It is seriously infectious.

My happy list? My boyfriend, my friends (online and real life), coffee, chocolate, sunny days, ugg boots, my laptop, blogging and that feeling I get after going for a run.

Great post xxx

Sarah said...

You know me. I like to focus on the positive. Managing my anxiety means doing so is a conscious decision but somehow, my world is brighter because I do. My happy list includes Mr Small who is snuggled asleep on my lap right now and the fact that I'm going on a boat tomorrow. Bliss.

Jodie at Mummy Mayhem said...

Annie, I agree with the person who emailed. You definitely come across as a half glass full person to me.

I'm like you in that I'm happy most of the time. I have my down many others do...but I'm mostly upbeat.

Life is here to enjoy!

Kylie said...

A good topic for my mood tonight!
I am grateful for Twitter- for my friends who have consoled me this week, but also just as much for the distraction of chatting with them and forgetting I am sad for a bit. And my IRL friends of course too- just today I had five offers to mind our kids while we go to my friend's funeral on Monday. Thank you all. xxxx

Lucy said...

I'm a glass half full kinda girl too Annie, as you know. Before the lovely husband and I shacked up together, he told me he was excited about living with someone who made stuff fun all the time.

I try to always live up to that. It is a simple benchmark.


Maxabella said...

I enjoyed that immensely! You well know about my major 'Pollyanna Disorder'. The glass if full-full to me. x

Rachel said...

This post is so down-to-Earth, and an expression of everything I wish I could be. It's so true - we all see the perks in being a millionare, owning a mansion and having butlers to do everything for you, but that would be such a boring life! What would be the point in it? I read this fantastic quote many years ago that I thought applied perfectly here; I can't remember the exact wording, but it explored the idea that a homeless person is just as happy as a rich person: both want more than they have, and both are thankful for what they do have, even if in both these cases those things are very different. What sets them apart in their happiness is their mindset, as with all of us.

Unfortunately, I am a glass half-empty person, and I always have been. I'm 18 but I already feel like I've lost the 'golden' years of my life, and each day seems like a struggle. I know it's whiny, but there is a point to this drone: I would rather be a homeless, happy person, than a rich person cursed with depression. And, unfortunately for many of us, the latter (except for the rich part) is drilled into our family and our lives. I wish I could be like you, and be thankful for what I have.
I know this comment sounds somewhat condescending, but I assure you this is not the desired effect: I suppose it's the curse of the online world in which we live! Trully, thankyou for this post; you really have given me hope that one day I will wake up and be happy; that one day my mind won't be occupied by selfish thoughts of ending it all.
Anyway, immensely enjoyed the blog, and it gives me hope that in a few years I'll have the hindsight to be trully happy :)

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